How to Say NO Without Inflicting Any Pain, Tears or Bloodshed

Guest Post How to Say NO Without Inflicting Any Pain, Tears or Bloodshed

Ummm...NO?

I’m gonna’ (try) get straight to the point here and skip right through the fact that I’ve been MIA for some time and that this is my first post on this blog in over 2 months.

Why?

Because I have a ton of excuses but none that are worthy enough. So I’m just gonna’ pick up where I left off and start musing here again the way I use to – slowly but surely.

But until I do, I’d love it if you were to head over to our very dear Aunt Gini’s blog – an AdAge Power 150 site might I add – to read my latest guest post, “5 Effective Ways to Say NO” or as I like to call it, “How to Say NO Without Inflicting Any Pain, Tears or Bloodshed”. Needless to say that the first title was a better fit for the mighty Spin Sucks lol ;).

It doesn’t really take a brain surgeon to figure out what the post is about but I guarantee that it won’t be the usual, bland, “how to” type of post. There’s definitely a little touch of Griddy in there – 1000 plus words worth actually ;)! Please don’t make that face or freak out, I made it pretty easy and entertaining to read with some pretty realistic examples. OH yeah, I also poked a little fun at Gini and Lisa – but all in the name of humor and friendship.

So if you’ve ever been in a situation where you knew you had to say no but said yes anyways – this read is for you. If you’ve ever wondered how to say no in a polite but firm and friendly manner – this is the read for you. Basically – if you’re alive and kicking…say it with me….THIS IS THE READ FOR YOU!

Are you still here? Because you know I could go on…but seriously…wouldn’t you rather go over there and join the conversation instead? Yeah, I thought so!

I’ll meet you in the comments…

PS – for the second time in this blog’s history, I’ve closed the comments section so that you can share all you want where the original post is…at Gini’s fabulous house.

Cheers

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Ingrid Abboud aka 'Griddy' is a whole lot of things with a ridiculous amount of interests. For one, I'm a Social Media enthusiast with a tremendous passion for writing and blogging. I'm also a pretty cool Copywriter but a more serious MarCom Consultant. But most of all, I'm the proud owner and driving force behind nittyGriddy.com - A Kinda Social Media Journal with Net News & more.

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